Why “Transform Your Perspective” Had to Die

Facing fears shows who you really are

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I’ve been hiding.

Not from you—from myself.

For months, I’ve been writing under this vague umbrella of “Transform Your Perspective”. I thought if I stayed generic enough, I could help everyone while keeping the real me safely tucked away.

But here’s what I realized at 3 AM last week when fear had me by the throat.

You can’t help anyone from behind a mask.

The Middle-of-the-Night Truth

Let me tell you what really happens when you try to build something authentic.

Fear shows up. Not occasionally—constantly.

The more truthful steps I take, the more fear multiplies. It’s exponential. I wake up heart pounding, mind racing through every reason this is a terrible idea.

Every bold move gets its own horror story complete with a cast of characters I know intimately.

Fear (the lead), Anxiety (close second), with supporting roles from Doubt, Worry, and that old friend “Who Do You Think You Are?”

They write elaborate fiction about my inevitable failure.

I’ve lost count of sleepless nights. I joke that you can sleep when you’re dead—a holdover from my college days of cramming for exams with coffee the size of a small pot.

But this is different.

This isn’t studying for tests. This is betting on myself while my brain screams that I’m delusional.

The Confession I’ve Been Avoiding

I tried to be an expert on change. I positioned myself as someone who had this figured out.

But I’m not a therapist. I’m not done transforming. I’m in the middle of it—right now, today, this moment.

The truth? I’m a spiritual person.

There. I said it.

For months, I’ve been calling spirit “our connection to reality” because I wanted to appeal to everyone. I didn’t want to be seen as one of those spiritual people.

Now I don’t care.

Want to know what’s funny? AI analyzed my writing and called me a “spiritually reformed skeptic.”

I love that even more than my carefully crafted generic positioning.

Why I’m Actually Skeptical

I’ve done decades of spiritual practices. Some work. Most don’t—at least not the way they’re taught.

Here’s why I’m skeptical. Most of this can’t be directly proven. I have circumstantial evidence. Indirect proof. Patterns I can’t ignore.

But here’s the thing about circumstantial evidence—it’s all your mind has.

Nothing in reality can actually be proven. Your eyes reverse light so your brain can process it. We take in 11 million bits of sensory input per second but can only process 40-50 bits.

Our entire reality is determined by a tiny sliver of available information.

This is how fear is born.

Our brains evolved to compare current input against past situations. Otherwise, the saber-tooth tiger would have gotten us.

This same survival mechanism now hijacks modern life, turning every bold move into a life-or-death scenario.

The Practice I’ve Been Hiding

Full confession mode. I read tarot cards.

It’s probably my strongest spiritual practice. Decades in the making. I’m done hiding it.

I’m not talking fortune-telling. I use the cards for self-understanding, for seeing patterns my conscious mind misses, for accessing intuition beneath all the noise.

Does this sound woo-woo? Probably.

Do I care anymore? No.

Because this is about me. Not about performing some acceptable version of spirituality for your approval.

What This Means For You

So what’s in all this for you?

Fear doesn’t have to rule your life.

I think of fear as my arch nemesis. The bigger the enemy you take on, the larger you become to meet it.

All of us have a really large life to live. Fear is what hides it from us. It hides who we really are behind smoke and illusion.

I have some tricks to outsmart it. Sometimes it gets me—until I turn the tables and see it for what it really is. Stories my evolved brain tells to keep me safe from dangers that no longer exist.

This will be an ongoing journey until I die.

I don’t have all the answers. You probably have some too.

Maybe we can share.

The Real Invitation

Even if we just get together to share stories. To know you’re not alone. To make sure no one gets left behind.

If this doesn’t sound like a journey you want to make, I understand. Please unsubscribe with my full support.

But if you’re staying, know this.

I want to talk to people who want to challenge fear. Who are willing to question everything—including popular spiritual wisdom. Who understand that transformation is messy and non-linear.

I can promise I might not agree with all your life choices, and you won’t agree with all mine.

We can share our truths anyway. No one has a corner on absolute truth. But we all have pieces of it.

One truth I know for certain. This can no longer be “Transform Your Perspective.”

It’s time to come out of the shadows and claim what this really is.

Welcome to Fearless Mindset.

This is where the real work begins.

What fear are you ready to face? Reply and tell me—I read every response.

If you’re thinking “this is too intense for me”—good. That means you’re paying attention to your own boundaries. Honor that.

If you’re thinking “finally, someone who gets it”—welcome home. Let’s do this together.