I used to think taking responsibility for everything meant I was dependable. What I didn’t realize was how much of that responsibility was actually fear trying to control outcomes before they could hurt me. In this Back Room conversation, I go deeper into the nervous system underneath over-functioning, perfectionism, and becoming the most emotionally invested person in the room. We explore the strange discomfort of stopping yourself from automatically carrying what other people leave unfinished. Because sometimes responsibility isn’t wisdom at all — it’s survival wearing a disguise.
